Every marriage faces seasons of uncertainty because life is always changing.
Some people
handle uncertainty well while others, well ... not so much.
These are three changes every marriage goes through:
Romantic Love
This early stage is an extension of courtship.
Most newlyweds are starry eyed and deeply attracted to each other. They spend most of their time together, communication and trust are still pretty strong, and their relationship overflows with abundant
displays of affection.
Power Struggles
In this stage, the reality of married life surfaces. Friction and power struggles begin over finances and decision making.
The very things you loved about your partner in the beginning become annoying. But this is normal and is NOT a sign you’ve fallen out of love.
Open communication is essential. And couples should be
generous with forgiveness because there will be much to forgive during this time of adjustment.
Mature Love
Mature love is characterized by mutual respect and acceptance of “faults.”
The couple knows, understands and appreciates each other’s strengths and weaknesses. Couples that make it to this stage tend to handle life’s surprises much better.
Dealing With Change in
Marriage
How do you handle change in marriage in a way that strengthens your relationship?
Know what you really want from the relationship.
How do you want to be treated?
How would you like you and your spouse to spend time together?
Try to get clear on each other’s expectations.
Acknowledge Changes in Your Marriage…
Denial only makes it harder to find
reasonable solutions to relationship challenges.
Change happens. So acknowledge it and move forward. What other choice do you really have?
Take Stock Of Your Resources…
When change happens, evaluate your resources including finances, time, skills and people. This makes it easier to sort through the issue(s) and make tough decisions.
Communicate…
Being on the same page is essential when navigating change.
Besides acknowledging any changes you think you're seeing, discuss your feelings regarding upcoming transitions with your partner. This brings you together as you explore options and
solutions.
See a Therapist…
If the change is serious to the point of being detrimental to your relationship, consider seeing a qualified marriage therapist.
The therapist will help you work through any issues while improving the way you handle stuff that stresses your relationship.
With time, you might even begin redefining change from fear and loss to adventure and
opportunity!
Every couple wants lasting happiness. This can only be achieved by embracing change and enjoying the adventurous journey life takes you on.
