Hi
,
How free do you feel to be yourself in your marriage?
In the beginning of a relationship, some
people (not all) pretend to be someone they're not. They'll change their personality; they will pretend to like stuff they really don't like. Some people change their voice to make it sound softer, warmer and more pleasing.
Life is too short to be someone other than yourself.
If someone won't love/like you for who you are - the real you, then maybe a relationship with them isn't the best idea. But how can you really know until you let them encounter the real you?
Be yourself and allow your partner to do the same.
Being Yourself Means . . .
...being genuine about your feelings and behavior.
Masking your feelings and withholding your concerns might "keep the peace" for a while but sooner or later conflict will emerge.
Voice your concerns as they arise to avoid misunderstandings
in the future. This helps to build an honest, sincere and healthy relationship.
Why You Should Be Yourself...
The price you pay for not being true to yourself is not enjoying your marriage.
The other price you pay is not enjoying your life fully.
When you go too far out of your way to accommodate your partner at the expense of not being true to yourself, you destroy any possibility of a healthy, intimate relationship.
You end up feeling dissatisfied, angry and frustrated, wondering why you're putting so much effort into the relationship and getting so little satisfaction out of it.
How To Stay True To Yourself In A Relationship..
- Keep your hobbies and any other activities that were important to you. Just because you enjoy mutual hobbies as a couple doesn’t mean you should give up the other things.
- Keep your old friends. If you feel the need to let go of your old friends because you're married now, you're probably not being yourself. You need trusted friends in your life.
- Spend time away from your partner every now and then, preferably with friends or family. A little time away from each other can be healthy for your
relationship. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder!
- Speak Up – Don’t shy away from bringing up issues about your marriage for fear of rocking the boat. Ignoring it never makes things better.
Marriage gets frustrating pretty fast when you're pretending to be someone else. If you think you have to be someone else to have a happy relationship then you're relationship is unhealthy.
Until
next time this is Mike Tucker and the Crew and we want YOU to be mad about marriage!
