For many people, it's easier to say I love you than I’m sorry.
What's
with that?
A sincere “I’m sorry” connects with the wronged party and facilities forgiveness. There’s profound healing power in saying I’m sorry. If we said it more often (and actually meant it) I think Splittsville would be a ghost town.
The Art of the Apology
Crafting an effective apology that inspires forgiveness is an art. Mastering it could mean a lifetime of happy, healthy relationships.
1) Begin by admitting responsibility for any hurt or damage you’ve caused.
2) Don’t justify your actions during the apology.
3) Say why you’re sorry and not “I’m sorry IF I _______”. Be specific & own
it.
4) Share your explanation later on if you feel there’s a valid reason for your actions.
5) Express some degree of remorse.
Why should you apologize?
- It fosters forgiveness and healing.
- Eliminates grudges and bitterness.
- Soothes a guilty conscience.
- Maintains respect between you and your partner.
- Gives the offended party the power and chance to forgive.
- Helps rebuild
trust.
- Fosters feelings of comfort and security because you won’t let it happen again.
- Demonstrates humility and courage - that you are caring and responsible.
It’s not always easy saying I’m sorry
but having a happy relationship is worth it. So be quick to admit when you’ve done something wrong or hurtful - be the kind of partner who triggers smiles instead of tears.
Until next time this is Mike Tucker and the Crew and we want YOU to be mad about marriage!
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