We all need some variety in our lives. If your spouse isn't
having fun with you they'll have fun with someone else.
Predictability isn't all bad, though, because it makes
a marriage secure, comfortable and
stable.
But if you have the sneaking suspicion that your relationship
might benefit from you spicing things up, decide right now
to add the element of surprise to your marriage and have
some fun!
Strive for a healthy balance of routine and surprise because
healthy relationships have both.
Here are four ideas:
1) If your spouse spends a few hours watching sports
weekly, make it a party and join them — invite some
friends over. And if you’re really diabolic, surprise
them with friends who will root for
the other team!
2) If your spouse loves gardening, get some plants you can
tend together; make plans to attend a special event on
organic gardening, or horticulture, or whatever you think your
spouse might enjoy.
3) Instead of spending two hours in front of the TV
after work, take a leisurely
sunset stroll. Leave your
phones at home and talk. (Smart devices are dumbing
down marriages these days.)
4) During that sunset stroll, stop and
give them a hug,
and whisper I love you in their ear in a way that is
meaningful to them.
Just don't recite the words, communicate the message.
Maybe kiss your partner softly on the
lips, then take
their hand and finish your walk.
Please, whatever you do, just do something unexpected.
It doesn’t have to be every day - in fact it shouldn't be
every day because then it'd become routine!
Have fun! Soon your spouse will be wondering what exciting
thing you'll surprise them with next - which is so much better
than them fantasizing what it'd be like to be with that other
person.
Until next time this is Mike Tucker and the Team and we
want you to be mad about marriage!
