Hi
,
Couples desire more passion in their relationship,
especially in the bedroom, but they're too scared
to do anything about
it.
Passion is having a strong desire for something
or someone. It’s a compelling emotion.
The opposite of passion is apathy.
Apathy is the absence of
emotion or excitement.
It's lacking interest in things others find exciting.
If you were to score your relationship from 1-10 on
passion in the bedroom, what would it be?
How do yo feel about your score?
What do you WANT it to be?
(What score do you think your partner would give?)
A passionless marriage/bedroom is painful.
But couples don't talk about it because it's embarrassing.
They'd never say, "My spouse isn't
interested in me
physically," or "I'm not interested in experiencing
physical intimacy with my spouse anymore."
Do you know what they say instead? They soften their
pain by saying "We have a very comfortable marriage."
Instead of a passionate relationship, couples settle for
a “comfortable” connection with each other instead.
A comfortable relationship is something you have
with your cat but your spouse wants fire and life!
Here are some tips to enjoy more passion:
Say It / Don't Say It
Listen, If the physical part of your marriage is
absent or unfulfilling, you need to say something.
Sure it’d be nice if all it took
was a glance,
longing gaze or playful expression to trigger
those special, passionate moments like we
see in commercials or movies.
I know actions speak louder than words but sometimes
it takes words to trigger actions. So say something.
Something else you can do with words is compliment
your spouse. Let them know how nice or attractive they
look to you. Take time to appreciate them, too.
*** Avoid criticism. Criticism kills passion.
So does being judgmental or disapproving.
If you’re critical, judgmental, hard to please,
exacting, temperamental, disapproving, or have
made your spouse feel rejected, or you
seem
disinterested, your spouse will not engage you
passionately; they’ll play it safe and settle for a
comfortable marriage instead...or leave.
Strive to become the kind
of person your
partner would enjoy being passionate with.
Emotional Fitness
Healthy passion requires emotional fitness.
Emotionally fit couples have the capacity
to be intimate emotionally and physically.
The quality of your emotional connection IS
the quality of your marriage.
Begin cultivating an emotional connection by:
1) Upon waking in the morning, hug your partner
tightly, or at least smile.
2) Share a kiss before leaving for work.
3) Do breakfast together. Enjoy unhurried moments
to connect emotionally before the rat race begins.
And wish each other a great day.
Surprise!
When did you last surprise your spouse with a
wonderful candle-lit dinner or a nice hotel?
It’s not easy going from an apathetic marriage
to a passionate relationship. So it helps to
put yourself in an environment where passion
and intimacy are the natural
outcome.
Another cliche that works sometimes is offering
your partner a massage. Do it just because you
care and want to nurture them.
Maybe take your spouse to a day spa, or turn
your bathroom into a soothing oasis with a
warm
bath, candles, and soothing music.
I don’t know what does it for you …maybe it’s a monster
truck rally! If so, do it! Just find something that works and
do it.
You can absolutely have more passion in your
marriage but you’ve got to want it with your
partner and you'll need to put some effort into it.
Passion doesn’t have to fade when infatuation
passes.
Focus on the emotional connection with your
partner and
intimacy will follow.
Start practicing these tips and soon you’ll be
enjoying nights of passion again with your partner.
Until next time this is Mike Tucker with the Mad
About Marriage Family and we want You to be
mad about marriage.
