Sure, everyone who gets married wants love and happiness
to last for a lifetime.
But there’s a BIG difference between lasting happiness and perfect
happiness.
It’s common for spouses to confuse the two. And when they do,
the result is heaps of unhappiness and even misery.
It seems that everyone wishes for the perfect
marriage.
But how is that even possible when we ourselves aren’t perfect?
When it's impossible for us to be
the perfect partner how can we
expect perfection from our spouse?
We have flaws, faults and shortcomings – and you know what?
That’s okay!
Instead of wishing for perfect happiness maybe we should
work for lasting happiness.
Here's a tip that might help get you going:
Happy Marriage Tip #1 – A New Beginning
Everyone needs a fresh start - a new
beginning.
Maybe your marriage needs a do-over.
There’s nothing wrong with starting over - even if it’s for the
third, fourth or fifth time.
So choose to give each other a fresh start.
Sure it’s easy over time to become less patient and understanding,
(and much less forgiving, too).
But it hurts our spouse and scars their heart.
Months turn into years; patterns become ingrained, and we drift
apart from the very person - the only person - in the world who,
at one time, mattered more than even life itself.
If this situation sounds familiar, I invite you and your spouse
to consider giving your marriage a fresh start.
Your yesterdays don't have to define your tomorrows.
Decide to start over.
Your marriage will change for the better when you do.
From one imperfect person to another, we all have room to
grow. So be the one who "grows" first.
One of the best ways I know of starting over is to become the
kind of
person you want your marriage to be.
Want a more loving marriage? Be more loving.
Want a more forgiving marriage?
Be more forgiving.
Want a kinder and more affectionate marriage? Be kinder and
and more affectionate; be warm!
Want a
happier marriage? Decide to be a happier person.
Here are at least seven things that happy couples do to stay happy
that you can choose to start doing today:
1 Become what you want your marriage to be.
2 Renew your commitment & decide divorce is not an option.
3 Forgive, forget, go forward.
4 Flirt, touch, and engage in public displays of
affection.
5 Affirm your spouse’s special qualities.
6 Catch your spouse doing something good.
7 Dream again. Work to make your dreams of lasting happiness come true.
Until next time, this is
Mike Tucker and the Team and we want you
to be mad about marriage!
