Why stagnate when you can flourish?
Flourishing is soooo much better than stagnating.
Doing time - punching the “marital clock” -- is no way to live.
Life isn’t a dress rehearsal for something better; it’s not a practice
session. Life is what’s happening this very moment.
Life is what is happening when you’re changing the diapers, taking
the kids to soccer practice, making dinner
and enjoying it as a family.
I realize bad things happen to us sometimes, and all we can do is
muster the energy
to exist/survive our way through the dark moments.
And I know that life can become so absolutely demanding and
overwhelming that it loses its sense of
magic.
But what we’re talking about here is finding ways to embrace and
savor the daily process of living life with our partner.
Find ways to create experiences, adventures and memories.
Create a legacy of love that will leave people better than when
you found them.
Here are some ideas:
What Does Your Spouse Enjoy?
What does your spouse like to do?
(“Nothing!” you say. Okay…what do you think they might like
to do - or used to like doing?)
You don’t have to fall in love with what they love. Just express a
genuine interest in some of the things they enjoy – and join
them.
Appreciate Their Career
How much do you know about their work/career?
Affirm them in what they
do; express appreciation for their
dedication and effort to create a good life for your family.
Support them.
What Worries Them?
What keeps them awake at night? How can you ease their
emotional distress?
What are Their Dreams?
What makes your spouse feel alive?
What have they always dreamed of doing?
What have they stopped dreaming of doing or
becoming?
Is there anyway you can be a part of their pursuit of
happiness?
Is there anyway possible you can re-ignite their dream?
Are You Growing Together?
You are either growing together or growing
apart.
So take an interest in their life. Appreciate them. Enjoy
their companionship. Growth together.
Play. Learn. Serve. Share. Believe. Grow.
Decide to take your relationship to a whole new level of intimacy
and companionship.
Decide to flourish.
Until next week, this is
Mike Tucker and the Team and we want
YOU to be mad about marriage
