Spouses snap at each other. Welcome to the real world.
That's
not the bad part, though. The bad part is choosing to let it
slide and not doing anything about it.
The worst thing you can do is to assume your spouse will give you
a pass because they know you were having a bad day.
Maybe you were. Maybe
you weren't.
Doesn't matter.
You need to fix
it.
Lucky for you, fixing it is easy.
Getting back to normal is as simple as
saying, “Honey, I’m sorry.”
Back in the day before you were married,
saying "I'm sorry" wasn't enough
for you.
You sent notes, cards, flowers, chocolates, planned special dates, and
more, just to make sure they KNEW you loved them!
You felt horrible about hurting their feelings.
It's a funny thing. The longer you’re with someone, the easier it is to take them
for granted.
We tend to treat them less special as the years go by, know what I
mean?
We stop treating them as our soulmate. And sometimes we are more courteous
and polite to others than we are to our spouse - the most important person
in our world. What's with that!
Your spouse committed their life and love to you.
They’ve gone through everything with you. No one knows you better.
So don’t take them for granted.
Be quick to say, “I’m sorry.”
Those two words melt defensiveness and heal hurts.
“I’m sorry”
protects intimacy.
"I'm sorry" keeps your from drifting apart.
“I’m sorry” preserves
connection.
A relationship in which the words “I’m sorry” are rarely spoken is an
unhealthy relationship.
When you tell your spouse “I’m sorry” you’re communicating that you
care deeply about them and regret hurting their heart.
But here’s the thing. Saying you're sorry without
meaning it makes
things worse because it belittles your spouse.
When a person is truly sorry, his or her actions will show it.
Next time you
apologize to your spouse, do something special - just
like you did when you were dating or were newlyweds – open your heart
and express your love in some special way.
Saying your sorry won’t magically “fix”
your marriage, but it's essential
for being happily married.
Your spouse will be quick to forgive. So be quick to make up and
say I'm sorry.
Until next time, this is Mike & the Team and we want you to be
mad about marriage!
