Your relationship needs massive amounts of time and attention
to grow and be healthy.
Can you think of anything on earth more important than our
relationships with our loved ones?
Me either.
Your marriage and family deserve more than "quality time". They
deserve quantity time - more than you think, too.
Think about it. In the beginning of your relationship,
what did
you want, quality or quantity time?
Quantity! You couldn’t get
enough!!
You craved unlimited time with them so you got married
because even forever wasn't long enough!
So don’t let life get in the way and shove you around.
Take charge. Say no. So “no” to the good so you have time for
the best.
Make love your first priority.
Stay focused on each other no matter what.
Give each other your best energy and attention.
Give each other massive amounts of time because no one else
will ever love or care for you as much as your
spouse.
Decide right now that you will do something this week to make
your spouse feel like he or she is the most important person in
the world to you.
Make them your number one priority.
When you do, miraculous things begin to happen in your
relationship.
One of them will be this: Joy will revisit your relationship.
No longer say to yourself, “I don’t have time.”
I’ve observed that people have the time for whatever matters
most to them right now.
Decide to “show up” to your relationship and invest yourself fully.
Hold nothing back!
If it’s important enough for you to show up for your job, or some
other obligation, then it’s important enough for you to show up for
your marriage.
You have all the time you need because everyone has 24 hours
daily.
There is no more time! Which means we must have all we need
for what really matters.
We don’t have time for everything - but we don’t need everything.
Two Ways To Spend Quantity Time Together
1. Take time to focus exclusively on each other
2. Take time to do things with other people
If you’re facing marriage problems, make #1 your priority.
Take time to focus on each other. This helps you re-establish
a healthy
connection, strengthen your bond and restore intimacy.
In #2 above, the event or other people get your focus and attention.
This is healthy. But if you’re in a struggling marriage, it can work
against you because you can be together BUT still ignore each
other because your attention is on the other people or event.
Giving your partner undivided time and attention lets them know
that he or
she is the most important person in your life…and that
you wouldn’t have it any other way.
Until next time, this Mike & the Crew and we want you
to be mad about marriage!
