It seems couples reach a point where they either focus
mostly on the good stuff or on the bad.
They either become a fault finder or a good finder.
Which are you?
What about your spouse?
Thing is, it’s easy to become a good
finder.
Just start focusing on your spouse’s good qualities!
Focus on the strengths and traits that attracted you
in the first place.
Appreciate what makes them unique.
Celebrate your
differences.
You’ll never improve your relationship by focusing on everything
that’s wrong with the other person.
To help make the shift from focusing on the bad to the good, some
couples take a stroll down memory lane to relive the good times.
They’ll share what they appreciated about each other in the early
days, what attracted them to the other, and what they
still appreciate.
Another thing they do is make time for things they once enjoyed
that were fun, brought them closer or deepened intimacy.
Why not give it a try - what do you have to lose?
Remember, it’s okay to accept things as they are but it's not okay
to make them worse than they are.
Certainly not everything about your relationship or partner is bad.
Reignite your heart by reliving the best parts of your relationship
and discover that love is still there.
Declare your independence from the tyrannical powers of
fault finding.
Reliving your strengths and appreciating the passions and qualities
that first captured your hearts helps you to work through your marriage
problems very, very
effectively. It brings you closer, too.
And you might rediscover something else along the way: Each other.
Until next time, this is Mike & the Crew and we want you
to be mad about marriage!
