About how many date nights did you and your spouse average per month in 2015?
(Did your dates feel more like a business meetings because you talked about
work, bills or chores?)
Here’s a question: How many date nights have you scheduled for February
(besides February
14)?
Sometimes the idea of a date night gets a bad wrap because one partner will say
something like, “I dated you before we were marriage. Why do we need date nights now?"
(How
romantic...not!)
I’ve even heard “experts” bad mouthing the weekly date night.
What gives?
Most of the time I think they’re being controversial to get more readers, viewers
or followers. Face it, negative press sells.
The fact of the matter is that you and your spouse really do need a weekly
date night.
Why?
To stay in touch.
To keep from drifting.
To grow together.
To savor and cherish life.
And to make life mean something more than maintenance or survival.
We all know how life’s daily demands can strain a marriage. And how
chronic pressure can be so downright exhausting.
What usually suffers in these situation is our marriage because we’re
constantly reacting to one urgent thing after another, leaving very
little
time and energy for what really matters.
Decide today that you deserve better - that you and your spouse deserve
a break from the insanity of life because couples who enjoy time
together stay together.
So choose to create a sanctuary in time for your marriage today.
Put it on your calendars and guard it!
Enjoy a few minutes, or an hour or two, each week to share your
hopes, dreams and desires, and to play and have fun.
After all, you and your spouse are making a life together. So make
it a good one because no one else will do it for you.
When it comes to ideas, dinner and a movie are great but think bigger
sometimes. Learn something new like how to scuba dive, or
paint,
take a photography class or learn a new language.
You get the idea.
And remember to do something playful every so often, too.
A weekly date night gives you the chance to bond, connect, grow,
play and laugh.
Whatever you do in 2016, please don’t stop dating your partner.
Put your marriage first – make it your highest priority and use
a weekly date night to keep the fires of love alive.
Until next time, this is Mike & Gayle Tucker and we want
you
to be mad about marriage.
