Sparks flew (the good
kind).
You couldn’t get ENOUGH of each other!
You were so passionate and madly in love that it made people
sick just to be around you!
But “they” tell us the day comes when the flames die and passion grows cold.
I say WE deserve better and that it’s up to US to set OUR marital expectations and standards.
If someone wants a cold, boring marriage, fine for them! (No one wants that, by the way.)
So here are five surefire ways to “re-spark” your marriage.
1) Do What You Used to Do: Play
Do what you did in the beginning of your
relationship.
Fan the flame of passion again!
Mix it up.
Enjoy a special time each week where the two of you do fun things - things you did when you first got together.
Stop making excuses and just go do it.
One of the many benefits you will experience is that you’ll have something to talk about again.
2) Be Playfully Romantic
When
did you stop flirting (with your spouse)?
Each of you knows how to turn the other one on mentally, emotionally and physically.
So send texts (please, not while you’re driving :-)
Send Emails. Cards. Calls. (I don't know - do whatever it is you do!)
Flirt. Tease. Give compliments out of the blue.
Let your partner know how into them you still are - show them you’re still attracted to them.
3) Grow Together
Husbands and wives either grow together or apart.
So try new things.
Take a trip.
Team up for a mission project either at home or away.
Take up a new hobby.
Learn, grow and serve together.
Get outside of your own small, individual worlds and invest your lives into meaningful experiences, and serve other people.
4) A New Nighttime Routine
Try this:
Have the same bedtime, if possible, every night. Shut everything off and block out the world.
This is your time. (Put away the smart devices.)
Talk.
Hold each other.
Enjoy each others’ physical company if the moment
strikes.
But most of all, spend a few minutes sharing what happened that day; share your concerns, desires, dreams, hopes – get to know each other again.
Stay connected.
5) Mmmmmm. Physical Touch.
Touch. And touch often.
Satisfying, gratifying touch triggers the release of oxytocin.
**** This “hormone of love” increases feelings of trust and safety while decreasing feelings of worry and stress. ****
Oxytocin plays a key role in sexual arousal, too.
Bonus Tip: Why So Serious? Giggle & Laugh: Lighten Up!
Make it your
new standard to infuse your marriage with humor, playfulness, and hope; decide to always focus on the silver lining during times of disappointment and stress.
Use one of these tips to re-spark your marriage.
Smile more.
Laugh more.
Hope more.
Love more.
Live more.
Until next time, this is Mike & Gayle Tucker and we want you to be mad about
marriage!
