Here are four things you’ve forgotten you used to do with your
partner before you were married. And if your relationship is in
trouble or has grown stale, start doing them again:
1. Talk.
You used to spend a lot of time talking and you LOVED it!
Hours would slip by unnoticed and you couldn’t wait until
tomorrow to talk some more.
Does it seem you’re talking less to each other now-a-days?
Or are you talking a lot about stuff that doesn’t really matter?
Does it seem you’ve run out of things to
say?
One of the reasons spouses start talking less to each other is
because of hurt feelings (or fear of feeling stupid or embarrassed).
In every relationship, people get their feelings hurt.
Want a perfect and pain-free marriage? Good luck!!
Here’s what you need to do: Create a safe environment (non-
judgmental) and start being friendly with each other.
Sart talking.
2. Time.
You used to spend a LOT of time together and you LOVED
it!
You couldn’t get enough! And the only way you felt you could
get enough time together was to get married and spend the rest
of your lives together!
But as the years roll along, it’s easy for couples to start “doing time”
instead of enjoying time.
If that sounds too familiar, you need to create
space in your
day(s) to enjoy time with one another again.
3. Listen.
You used to hang on their every word and you LOVED
it!
Learn to listen to each other again.
Listening to your spouse is one of the nicest gifts you can give
because it
makes them feel appreciated, loved and important.
4.Fun.
You used to go out of your way to do crazy things together and you
LOVED
it!
Look for ways to have fun.
Find ways to make each other laugh and smile. Be silly and playful.
Stop taking life so seriously!
If you’ve fallen into a rut, know what you can do?
Choose to leave
the rut behind and decide to keep on keeping on.
Some people don’t want to leave their rut because it has become
comfortable and feels "safe."
But it's only an illusion.
Ask yourself if you’d rather be comfortable (fake comfortable) or be
really happy.
Would you rather protect yourself from getting hurt or open your
heart to love?
That’s all for this week. Until next time, this is Mike & Gayle
Tucker and we want you to be mad about marriage!
