Some people wonder if their marriage is headed for divorce because
things haven't been going so well lately (or for several years).
Here are some steps you can take if you, or someone you know,
is in that situation:
Step one: Believe in your marriage.
Decide that your relationship is worth
saving.
Choose to believe that your marital problems can
and will be
resolved.
Start this process by having a conversation with your partner. Share your
feelings. Demonstrate your desire and commitment to make things better.
Step two: During this conversation, take responsibility for the role you’ve
played that has created the challenges your marriage now faces.
Step three: Create a plan together on how to move forward in healing
your relationship.
If both
of you feel you can handle this on your own, great. But if you
realize the situation is more complicated than you initially thought, don’t
be afraid to engage the services of an outstanding marriage counselor.
Step four: IF your spouse seems undecided about whether your marriage
can be saved, don’t push them.
Give them some space.
Give them time to think things through. Chances are they’ll come around
to the idea of giving your relationship a second chance.
The point here is to not give up on healing and rekindling the love
that burned so brightly in your hearts.
Step five: Don’t lose hope!
This process won't be easy. It'll test you. There'll be times when
you feel extremely uncomfortable and afraid. But decide that
temporary pain is worth a lifetime of love and romance.
Take heart because...
...time has a way of healing wounds
...you have what it takes to do this
...not only is your marriage good enough to save, it’s
worth saving, too!
Until next
time, this is Mike & Gayle Tucker and
we want You to be mad about marriage!
