Experts say these are classic signs that a spouse might be cheating.
(But please, please whatever you do, don’t automatically accuse your
spouse of being unfaithful just because you observe these signs.)
THE SIGNS
1. Keeps Their Phone
Hidden.
They might be trying to hide texts, calendar appointments,
calls, numbers, voicemail, etc. from you.
2. Consistently Working Late
Hours.
This is one of the most common signs of cheating. So ask
yourself, are the extra hours reflected in their salary?
Do they use their work phone when calling to be
late?
3. Unexpected Gifts (Guilt Offerings)
Does your spouse shower you with unexpected gifts? Please be
careful with this one because maybe they’re trying to
turn
things around. But sometimes unexpected gifts are like
guilt offerings.
Do they seem more caring and affectionate than usual?
A new habit pattern might be evidence that something isn’t
quite right (but then again it could be that they’re trying
really
hard to change for the better, so be careful with this one, too).
4. Arguments.
Are you fighting and arguing more often? Are you
being
blamed for everything that goes wrong?
This could be your spouse’s way of blaming you for “causing”
them to have an affair.
5. Investing More Time, Money & Effort in Their Appearance.
Does your spouse seem more concerned with their personal
appearance? A cheating spouse often desires to look good
for
their partner. So if they start going to the gym and watching what
they eat, or start buying new clothes, ask what might be
prompting
this new behavior.
*** It could be they’re just trying to be more attractive to you. ***
6. Questionable
Charges.
Cheating takes money. So look into the questionable charges you
find in your financial records, or unusual ATM withdrawals.
7. Fuel & Miles Driven, “Business”
Trips.
Are more miles being put on the car than usual? Does it seem
that they’re having to go to unexpected places? Or are they
suddenly having to travel more for work?
Okay. Those are seven signs experts say might indicate that
a spouse is cheating.
*** BUT reasonable explanations might exist, so refrain from
jumping to any conclusions, okay?
***
Perhaps this is a healthier approach to these signs: If you observe
these “signs” in your relationship, consider them potential warnings
that your marriage
needs a little more attention than it’s getting.
So carefully reflect on what you think you're observing. And seek
God’s wisdom and guidance before accusing your spouse of
cheating.
Don’t create a problem where one doesn’t exist.
Assume the best of your spouse until
you have viable evidence
that suggests otherwise.
Until next week, this is Mike & Gayle Tucker and we want
you to be mad about
marriage!
