Do you ever feel like YOU'RE the one who's always giving in and compromising?

That you're constantly having to compromise to make the relationship work?

Then you’re compromising too much.

And it's unhealthy for you AND your marriage. 

Sometimes both spouses compromise too much. When this happens, the marriage feels morel like a business contract than a warm, loving relationship.

Too much compromising leads to feelings of:

• bitterness
• resentment
• indifference
• anger

Don't get me wrong, healthy, long-lasting relationships DO require give-and-take; compromise.  

Compromise demonstrates your desire to put your spouse's needs first - that it’s not all about you and that you want to work things out. 

Compromise is healthiest, though, when it comes from a place of putting your spouse’s happiness first, contrasted to a selfish a spirit where you demand your needs be met first at any cost.

On a scale of 1-5, how committed are you to your partner’s happiness?

Being 100% committed to your partner’s happiness:

• transforms  a “score card-based” relationship from where you focus on how much you can get to where you focus on how much you can give

• builds trust

• creates respect

• ignites intimacy and romance

Keep in mind that compromise can be a manipulative tool. Using compromise to selfishly manipulate our partner into giving us more of what we want really isn't compromise.

Compromise is unhealthy when used for selfish reasons.

But it's healthy when coming from a place of selflessness and generosity. 

A SIMPLE, EASY FIX

If you feel trapped within a chronic environment of conflict and unhealthy compromise, here's a simple, easy fix to get beyond it:

************** Become more intentional about being caring. *****************

It can be as simple as helping with chores, childcare, washing the dishes, picking up the house, getting groceries, making dinner, bringing home goodies for snacks, fueling the car, or simply watching your spouse’s favorite television show together.

As we wrap this week's tip, imagine how your relationship might change if you were truly committed to making it less about you and more about your partner by treating THEM how you would like them to treat you.

What would you need to stop doing to make this the new reality of your relationship?

And what would you need to start doing?

Just something to think about...

Until next time, this is Mike & Gayle Tucker and we want

you to be mad about marriage!