Experts say that about 4 out 10 ten marriages end in
divorce.
And nearly half of all marriages are affected by marital
unfaithfulness in some way.
Wow.
Infidelity is a common marriage problem.
Keep in mind that infidelity can be emotional as well as
physical.
But here’s the thing: Infidelity is usually the end result of
other problems in the relationship.
Please understand we’re not trying to excuse infidelity.
Have you, or someone you know, been flirting with the idea
of an extra-marital affair either emotionally or physically?
When needs go unmet in a marriage, the risk of an extra-marital
affair dramatically increases.
Here are some solutions to keep that from happening:
1. Restructure your schedule for more time
together.
Do whatever it takes to put each other first.
Every couple requires quality & quantity time for
a vibrant, fulfilling marriage.
So plan a date night, do lunch, watch a movie, or get
involved in activities that interest you both.
Make sure your time together is UNINTERRUPTED.
2. Share your goals, dreams and hopes.
3. Discuss your thoughts and feelings about any marriage
problems or issues you think exist within your relationship.
4. Confront money challenges because financial stress can
trigger emotional and physical affairs.
When a couple struggles with finances, debt, bills, rent,
grocery, or losing/keeping sources of income, they face
extreme stress that can make them want to escape.
Often times they escape into the arms of another person.
One of the best ways to deal with financial fear, or any fear, is
to confront it head on, make a reasonable plan, and take action.
Okay, so what if you’ve had an emotional or physical affair,
what now?
Consider taking these steps to save and restore your marriage:
1. Confess the affair to your spouse.
Let him or her know that you want to save your marriage no
matter what it takes.
2. End the relationship with the other person.
Whether the betrayal is physical
or emotional, cut off all contact.
3. Inform your spouse that you have ended the affair.
4. Apologize for your mistake.
Take full responsibility for you mistake. Explain the real reason
why you had the affair. Do not cast even the slightest blame
on your spouse for your actions because it's up to
you to
be faithful.
5. Be faithful. Period. Repeated betrayal destroys
trust.
6. Explain to your spouse the measures you are taking to keep
your promises and to stay faithful.
And remind him or her that you are committed to your relationship
and will do whatever it takes to regain their trust.
Sadly, extra-marital affairs have become a common marriage
problem.
But the good news is this: betrayal can be prevented or worked through.
Your marriage can be saved. You can take action today to reignite the
love you once shared and so thoroughly enjoyed.
Until next time, this is Mike & Gayle Tucker and we want
you to be mad about marriage!
