They review the past twelves months in preparation for a new year; special focus is given to family and friends because of the holidays.  

When you consider the quality of your marriage and your relationship with your spouse this year, what are your thoughts and feelings? Do you want more of the same in 2015?

If you’ve had a great year, awesome!

But if your marriage is isn’t growing or you feel like it’s on life support, what are your plans? Divorce? Separation? Nothing - and let “nature” take its course? Or do you desire to make things better?

In our work with couples over the years, many who chose separation or divorce say in retrospect that those choices exacted a price that was too painful and costly. In fact, their advice is to do whatever it takes to save your marriage now. 

So don’t wait. 

Take action.

And if you’re willing to take action to save your marriage then the only question that remains is just how far will you go to save it? 

Are you willing to risk becoming vulnerable?

Are you willing to have uncomfortable conversations?

Are you ready to discuss issues that might be painful?

Do you have the humility to go to counseling with your spouse?

So many people want to be in a relationship where they will never get hurt. But that desire is a fantasy - maybe even delusional. If you’re in a relationship, the day will come when you will get hurt in some way. 

The key is to choose to work through those conflicts and disagreements. 

Not everyone reading this has a marriage that needs to be saved; their relationships is okay. But their marriage can be improved because everyone’s can. Besides, who wants just an “okay” marriage?

As you reflect on these past twelve months and the year ahead, what do you want from your marriage? And just how far are you willing to go?

Will you be honest and work to identify the root cause of your marriage problems - or areas of improvement?

Will you initiate a conversation with your spouse, and give them a chance to speak? 

Will you listen? And seek to understand?

Do you have the humility to go to counseling with your partner if needed?

Just how far will you go to save, or improve, your relationship so that 2015 is the best year ever for your marriage?

Just something to think about.

Until next week, this is Mike & Gayle Tucker and we want you to be mad about marriage!​