Dear ,
Thank you for the positive feedback on our two-part
series about sex a few weeks ago.
Because of the feedback we received,
Gayle and I
thought we'd share another weekly tip for spicing up
your marriage.
Has your relationship gotten a little bland,
predictable or boring?
Maybe a little
too routine?
Realize that every marriage has its ups and downs.
What you and your spouse are going through is normal!
But if things have gotten rather dull, then here are
seven tips to rev things up and improve sexual intimacy.
1) Stop Complaining!
Complaining kills intimacy!
Not only is it NOT fun to be around a "complainer" it's
even LESS fun to have sex with them!
So instead of complaining about your relationship's lack of
intimacy and nagging your spouse about it, why not come up
with a plan to make the situation better?
And the first part of that plan should be stop complaining,
nagging or begging :-) !
2. Turn Off the TV
As much as you might enjoy watching TV with your spouse, this
does not qualify as "quality time" - in fact it can be deadly
to intimacy.
So turn off the TV for at least 30-45 minutes everyday and
engage your spouse without any distractions
3. Date Night
Date night is a great way for a married couple to enjoy and
create greater intimacy away from life's stresses and demands.
Take a night out with your spouse. Go to places that you used to
go before you were married.
Dress up, put on some perfume or cologne, recreate what you
did in the early years when you courted each other.
Get crazy and have fun! Play!
Here's an idea that some couples use:
Meet each other at a restaurant but pretend you've
never met before. Agree that even if it's only for
a few minutes, you will
interact with each other without
any emotional baggage.
Try it. It'll be fun. You'll see.
4. Do Nice Things For Your Spouse
This is a great way to show your spouse you care for them.
For example, you could
begin by helping your partner with
their chores. Make their life easier 'cause the world sure
isn't doing anything to lighten their load!
Doing something for your spouse without expecting anything
in return automatically
strengthens the bond of intimacy.
5. Annual Honeymoons
I love this one. Wouldn't you love a second honeymoon?
(Some of us never even had a "first" honeymoon!)
Every year, go away with your spouse. If you can't afford to
have an annual honeymoon, don't worry. Ask a friend or
relative to watch the kids and pets so you can spend
time alone with your spouse at home.
Quality time increases intimacy and spices things up.
6. Live
Each Day As Though It Were Your Last. Someday it will be.
If you have something to say to your spouse, say it now.
This also applies to the things that you want to do for
your spouse.
Do those things now.
Intimacy fades when loving words and deeds are left unexpressed.
Besides, you never know when it will be your last kiss,
your last hug, or your last "I love you."
7. Take care of yourself
To spice up your marriage and deepen intimacy, invest energy
in taking care of yourself and your marriage.
You need to be psychologically, emotionally, spiritually
and physically charged.
To achieve this, spend time alone to reconnect with your
passions and dreams; and enjoy time with special friends.
Give two or three of these tips a try.
Not only will you have more fun with your spouse and
be happier, it'll spice up your marriage in the bedroom
and
beyond!
Until next time, this is Mike and Gayle Tucker
and want you to be mad about marriage!
