Dear ,
For many people, talking about sex is uncomfortable,
especially for Christian couples.
But physical intimacy is essential for a healthy marriage.
Which is why we have to talk about it.
This week is part 1 of 2 on how to enjoy a more
fulfilling sex life with your spouse.
So, for starters, how are things with the physical
aspect of your marriage?
Would you say it's fulfilling...or is this an area you wouldn't
mind seeing improved?
God created marriage and all the wonderful
things associated
with it, including sex.
Here are four obstacles that get in the way of a fulfilling
sex life. Next week, we'll share 4 more.
1. Not Knowing what the Scripture Says about Sex
Believe
it or not, in the bible, God commands us to have sex!
In Genesis 1: 27-28, after God finished creating Adam and Eve,
he commanded them to "be fruitful and multiply".
God intends that a husband and wife make physical intimacy
a
priority in their marriage.
Genesis 1:31, the Bible says that God looked at all he had
made and said "it was good".
Sex is a good thing.
God approves of sex within the context of marriage.
2. Not talking to Your spouse about your Sexual Needs/Wants
To enjoy sex, you must share your sexual wants and needs
with your partner. This is essential for creating physical
intimacy in marriage.
You can start by simply telling your
spouse what love making
means to you emotionally, and how often you would like to
enjoy sexual intimacy with them; be specific with your
expectations.
3. Feeling Obligated to Have Sex
How can you expect to enjoy sex
if you only go through
the motions because you feel obligated?
Sex is for procreation and recreation; it's something
beautiful and pure that God created for your enjoyment.
In the Bible, Song of Solomon poetically describes
sex as something that should be anticipated and
be very pleasurable.
So give yourself permission to explore the thrilling
dimension of God's special gift of physical intimacy.
4. Don't Withhold Sex
In 1 Corinthians 7:5 the Bible says we shouldn't
"deprive our spouse of sex except for "consent for
a time."
This means that you shouldn't deny your partner sex.
However, neither should you force them to do anything
without their authentic consent.
Love never forces or coerces.
And since sex is an expression of love, it doesn't force
or coerce either.
In closing, sex is a gift from God that should be
embraced, celebrated and nurtured.
It shouldn't be something that's merely tolerated, abused,
or misused.
The quality of sexual intimacy within your marriage
is up to you and your spouse to determine.
I'd encourage you to do whatever it takes to enjoy
this very special gift from God because not only is
it fun and pleasurable, it also deepens your marital
bond and strengthens your relationship.
Next week we'll share four more obstacles that get
in the way of having better and more frequent sex.
Until then, this is Mike & Gayle Tucker and
we want
you to be mad about marriage!
