Could it be true that spiritual couples have better sex?

If you watch popular media you might think spiritually-
minded couples are uncomfortable with sexuality and
that the idea of wanting to improve one's marital
sex life might even be frowned upon.

But believe it or not, significant factors link spirituality
and sexuality - and those associations produce better sex.

Imagine that.

Healthy spirituality involves several principles
that enhance marital sex. Here are a few:

1) Grace & Forgiveness

Holding a grudge against your mate creates a barrier to
intimacy.  And without intimacy, there can be no genuine
sexuality - sex becomes just a physical act.

Releasing your resentment by forgiving your spouse removes this
barrier to intimacy, which leads to (you guessed it) better sex!

But grace also involves the ability to receive forgiveness.

When we don't allow ourselves to receive forgiveness, we
experience feelings of guilt and shame. 

Guilt and shame make us feel unworthy of emotional and
physical intimacy.  

When overcome with feelings of guilt and shame, it's
difficult to believe that our spouse could actually love us.

So, if you want better sex, then accept the forgiveness your
spouse offers because this clears away guilt and shame.

Another element of spirituality:

2) Self-sacrificial love

Placing the needs of your spouse above your own makes them
feel loved and cherished.

This leads to stronger feelings of attraction and deeper intimacy,
which leads to better sex.

Christians view marriage as being created & blessed by God.
And their marriage relationship is based on their sacred covenant
to love each other no matter. To them, marriage is a sacred
promise not a contract.

The commitment that results from this view of marriage helps
both partners feel safer and more secure in their relationship.
It fosters these elements as well:

1) Strengthens trust
2) Increases feelings of self-worth and dignity
3) Openness and honesty are more highly valued

It's difficult to fully trust someone who is closed, secretive
or dishonest. Those things kill intimacy plain and simple.

But with openness and honesty, deeper levels of trust and
intimacy are experienced, resulting in more frequent and
higher quality physical expressions of mutual love.

All of these factors we've discussed create a better sex life.

So, how can you bring the benefits of spirituality into your
marriage (and enjoy a better sex life)?

First, begin by accepting the forgiveness of Christ. 

Receive His love and assurance of eternal life.  Strive to
know Him intimately through worship, prayer, Bible study,
generosity, and following His guidance.

Second, pray for your spouse daily.

Ask God to show what you can do to let your partner
know that you love and cherish them. 

Pray for God's richest blessings on your spouse.

Third, commit yourself to Christ daily - to experiencing &
sharing His grace.

Truth is, few things are sexier than a truly spiritual man or
woman. And among the marvelous benefits you will receive
is...better sex!

Until next time, this is Mike & Gayle Tucker and we want you
to be mad about marriage!