Lasting Happiness?

Published: Fri, 03/07/14

Dear ,

Everyone who gets married hopes for lasting happiness.

But there is a difference between lasting happiness and
perfect happiness. Sometimes people confuse the two.

Would you agree that you might have a few flaws, faults
and shortcomings?

Of course you do! We all do!

We are imperfect. Which means we can't be the perfect
spouse. Same holds true for your partner.

So a better goal than looking for perfect happiness might
be to work towards lasting happiness.

What can we do to create lasting happiness and stay madly in love?
What can we do to have a stronger, healthier, and more enjoyable
relationship with our spouse? Start here:

Give Yourself A New Beginning
I don't care who you are or what you do, everyone needs
a fresh start - a new beginning.

Maybe you're at the point in your relationship where your
marriage needs to start over - a do-over.

There's nothing wrong with starting over with the
same person.

The only thing you need to do to get a fresh start is for
you and your spouse to DECIDE to give each other one.
That's it! Decide this very minute that you're giving
each other a new start.

I know I know - easier said than done, right? We get so
weighed down by all the "stuff" that piles up through the
years like:

  • taking each other for granted
  • fewer compliments that make you feel unwanted & unattractive
  • diminishing courtesy that makes you feel less liked
  • romantic ruts after the honeymoon fades
  • infrequent sexual intimacy because of ____ (fill in the blank)
  • flaring impatience
  • a critical, unforgiving spirit
  • intolerance
  • a decreasing desire to understand each other
  • harsh words
  • uncaring actions
  • indifference

These attitudes and actions hurt our spouse and marriage.

Months turn into years, patterns become ingrained, and we
drift apart from the ONE person in the world who at one time
mattered more to us than life itself.

So what are you going to do about it?

Will keep you doing things that are filling your marriage with
misery or would you rather be happy?

I encourage you, despite the emotional baggage that makes
you want to protect your heart from ever being hurt again,
tp push through the painful discomfort and decide to give your
marriage the fresh start it needs and deserves.

Your yesterdays do not have to equal your tomorrows.

Start over.

Will it be easy?

No!

Why? Because your marriage won't change until you do - which
means you and your spouse have some changing to do! Starting
with working on yourselves individually first and not making your
spouse your personal project.

Want to know the best way to start over?

Become what you want your marriage to be.

Want a more loving marriage? Then be more loving.

Want a more forgiving marriage? Then be more forgiving.

Want a happier marriage? Then be happier and more cheerful.

Follow these steps to get started:

1. Start becoming what you want your marriage to be.
2. Renew your commitment to the marriage - divorce is not an option.
3. Forgive, forget, go forward.
4. Flirt, touch, engage in public displays of affection
5. Affirm your spouse's special qualities
6. Catch your spouse doing something good
7. Dream again - and work together to make your dream of lasting
happiness come true.

Deciding today to give yourselves a new beginning is one of the first
steps to being mad about marriage forever.

Until next time, this is Mike & Gayle Tucker and we want you to
be mad about marriage!