We are continuing our series on the differences between
men and women, and the needs they have in marriage.
It is difficult for most women to understand the strength
of the male sex drive (trust me ladies, it is much stronger
than you probably think it is!).
The #1 emotional need (yes, emotional) mentioned by
most married men, is sexual fulfillment. This need is
only to be met by a husband's wife.
Withholding sex in marriage is a very dangerous game.
Sex isn't a "tool" to meter out punishment or reward.
Truth is, sexual fulfillment is a VERY important emotional
need for
BOTH genders - even more so than some realize
or admit.
God created sex to be a beautiful and pleasurable experience
between a husband and wife, for them to enjoy the profound
bond of intimacy that they, and they alone, may share.
Whereas men bond through sexual intimacy, women bond
through shared emotion, which they often experience through
conversation,
interaction, and affection, which facilitates
sexual intimacy.
Affection has to do with tone of voice, non-sexual touching,
kindness, and romance. These experiences for a woman are
the foundation for satisfying sexual intimacy.
Let's break this down:
Husbands: Take the time to listen to your wife, and add to
the conversation by sharing stories from your own life as well.
Be gentle, affirming, and romantic.
Wives: Understand that sexual intimacy is one of your husband's
primary emotional needs, (yours, too) and is one of the top ways
God created your husband to bond with you. So enjoy sexual
intimacy with your husband often, and the deepening bond
it creates.
So, as we bring this weekly tip to a close, think of some
things you can do in the coming days to meet these driving
needs of your spouse - and then follow through on them!
Until next week, this is Mike and Gayle Tucker
and we want you to be mad about marriage!