How often do you and your spouse fight?
One reason couples fight is because they don't
understand each other's needs.
The number one need men have is for respect and
ego support (BTW, nagging destroys this need).
When a wife shows respect and appreciation by her
words and deeds, she meets two of her husband's
deepest needs, and will have a more loving husband
in return. Acknowledging a husband's hard work and
effort is very, very important.
For women, two of their top needs are love and
security (especially security in the form of financial
stability).
A wife needs a husband who loves her for who she
is AND who is willing to work. She wants a man who
makes sound decisions and takes responsibility for
the family's financial needs.
When a husband decides to become the leader of
his family by choosing to take responsibility for his
family's needs, especially with regards to finances,
he meets one of the top needs of his wife. And when
he is more loving, he will "get" a wife who is more
respectful in return.
I know this sounds rather "traditional" but based on
the feedback Gayle and I hear across the country in our
Mad About Marriage seminars, times may have
changed but these needs have not.
By understanding the needs of your spouse and
doing your best to meet them, you will have less
conflict, fight less, and enjoy a more loving
relationship.
Until next week, this is Mike & Gayle Tucker and our
deepest desire for you is to be madly in love.