How incompatible are you and your spouse? And why
do you think you are incompatible in those areas?
How painful is it to your relationship?
When the pain becomes too much, many couples
choose to divorce, citing 'irreconcilable differences."
What about you? How do
you deal with incompatibility?
Some couples engage in battle while others slip into
denial hoping things will get better on their own, while
others roll up their sleeves and face the issue.
Dealing with incompatibilities is hard work because of
the conflict and vulnerability that is involved which can
add even more pain.
Leo Tolstoy wrote: "What counts in making a happy
marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how
you deal with incompatibility."
If you feel that you and your spouse are becoming
more and more incompatible as the years pass, be
of good courage because there is hope. Every
marriage has conflict and problems
(If you don't think so then guess what? You're in
the middle of a problem right now but aren't aware
of it, yet.)
So our marriage tip for you this week is this: Don't fret
about your incompatibilities -- and certainly don't throw
your marriage away because of them!
Instead, put everything on the table and talk about things.
Perhaps enlist the help of a counselor if the situation is
particularly tense or rife with conflict.
But dealing with your incompatibilities is the pathway to
a happy and fulfilling marriage. And sometimes dealing
with them is as simple as clearing up misunderstandings
or confronting something that happened in the past.
Just remember that the past does not equal the future. A happy
and healthy marriage can be yours...but it won't happen until
you decide to make it happen.
Until next week, this is Mike and Gayle Tucker and our hope
is for you to be m
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