How often do you make disrespectful judgments towards
your spouse? A disrespectful judgment is defined as:Judging or condemning your partner's motives, words, or
activities, even when just implied.Someone who engages in this behavior is a love buster -
someone whose actions either harm or diminish love. Think about it for a minute..
How much would you enjoy being in a permanent
relationship with that kind of person - a love buster?
You wouldn't? Me either!
So I guess the next question to ask ourselves is this:
How much of a love buster am I?How often do I condemn my spouse's words, actions and motives?How often do I judge them?
How often do I entertain "love-busting" thoughts towards
my mate? And how is it affecting my marriage? Disrespectful Judgments place a marriage in what's called
a "parent-child" relationship rather than adult-adult relationship --
and the last thing you'd ever want is to be married to your parents!Dr. Harley of Marriage Builders talks more about love busters.
Just click this link to learn more if you're interested:
Love Busters
Here's what we're all going to do this week in order to have healthier and happier marriages: We're going to choose one
day where we don't judge or condemn our spouse in even theslightest way in thought, word or deed.Let's have one day where we build love and not bust it.So go ahead and choose your day right now while you're
reading this. What day will it be? Today? Tomorrow? Next
Thursday?
Choose your day. Got it? Great!Decide this very minute that no matter what happens on that
day you will not judge or condemn your spouse. Instead,
when they do something that triggers those feelings within you,
choose to identify something positive about them instead. Until next week this is Mike & Gayle Tucker and our greatesthope for you is that you will be mad about marriage!
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