Could you be headed for divorce and not know it?
Here's how you can know - and if indeed you are
headed for divorce then you need to do something
about it today.
Researchers have identified that negative communication
patterns is the #1 predictor of divorce.
Not infidelity, abuse, or a lack of sexual intimacy.
Negative communication patterns.
Might we conclude that it is negative communication
patterns that trigger those other behaviors?
When you stop to think about it, who wants to be
around a person who constantly spews negative
words, looks, tones and gestures?
Not me!
So what you need to ask yourself today is this:
How much of the communication with my spouse is
filled with negative communication patterns?
Be honest with yourself - don't stick your head in the
sand because this is something you must deal with
or else one of two things will happen:
1) You will get divorced
2) Or find yourself enduring a very unhappy marriage
Here are some tips to change your negative communication
patterns:
1)
DECIDE to remove them, and then REMOVE them.
Researchers have found that getting rid of just one
negative communication pattern does more to increase
marital happiness than adding 5 positive things.
Wow!
So decide right now that you are not going to be the source
of any negative communication with your spouse.
2) Let your spouse know how much you appreciate the little
things they do for you and the family.
Shower your spouse with compliments, affirmation and
heaps of praise.
3) Use kind, gentle and caring language with your spouse.
Your spouse should be the one person in the world whom you
hold in the highest esteem - and they deserve for you to treat
them with courtesy and respect.
You should be nicer to your spouse than any other human beingon the planet. Remember this: Commitment means that I will choose to do or
say only that which is in the best interest of my spouse -- even
though it may cost me to do so.
You will never regret being gentle with your spouse. Until next week, this is Mike and Gayle Tucker and we want
you to be madly in love for the rest of your life.
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