This week's marriage tip isn't very P.C. (politically
correct).
But that doesn't make it untrue.
So let's get started.
We talked about the needs of men and women
last week, and how they're different.
Here are a couple more.
I don't think this one will surprise you:
Women need commitment.
But it can be tricky for a man to meet that need. Here's why:
A wife wants to see her husband take responsibility
for providing for the family so that the family can be
safe and secure.
Here's the tricky part:
Although a wife wants her husband to take responsibility
as the provider for the family, which is a demonstration of
commitment....
....she wants his commitment to her to be stronger than
his commitment to his:
career,
extended family,
friends,
or even to himself.
A woman won't see anything "tricky" about this
need or how she expects it to be met.
But to a man? It's tricky.
So, a husband needs to evaluate his commitment
to his wife and ask:
"Is my commitment to my wife stronger than any
other commitment in my life?"
A husband needs to ask himself:
"What are some ways I can show my wife that
she's my highest priority?"
Now, moving on to the not very P.C. part of this
week's tip:
Whereas women need commitment, men need
domestic support.
We realize that it may not be considered appropriate
or wise by some to talk about a wife's role of
providing domestic support to her husband.
So please understand what Gayle and I are NOT
saying. We're not saying that a husband has the
need for a domestic servant.
But as it has often been said, a woman is queen
of the castle.
With this in mind, a wife should take the lead in doing
all she can to make their home a sanctuary - a place of
refuge for her family.
This isn't to say that domestic responsibilities
aren't shared, but we are saying that a husband
has the need for domestic support - which is
just as important as his wife's need for commitment.
So, a wife should ask herself often:
'What are some things I can do this week to improve
the
environment of our home?"
Maybe it's getting some plants, or some pictures for
the walls, or lighting some scented candles that are
her husband's favorite fragrance.
Okay, this week we discussed a woman's need for
commitment and a husband's need for domestic
support - and I hope we didn't start any arguments :-)
Consider this: Your spouse chose to spend the rest of
their life with you because they fell absolutely head-over-heels
madly in love with you.
And even if you, or they, didn't know it at the time,
they felt that no one else in the world could satisfy
the needs of their heart, mind and soul quite like you.
When you think it about it that way, it really makes
you feel kind of special, doesn't it.
So think of ways you can meet your partner's needs
this week, and then enjoy the positive effects it has
on your marriage.
Until next week, this is Mike and Gayle Tucker
and we want you to be madly in love!