Hi , A ten-year old girl and boy were asked: How do you decide who to marry?The boy said, "You got to find somebody who
likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she should like it that you like sports, and she should keep the chips and dip coming."The girl answered, "No person really decides before they grow up who they're going to marry. God decidesit all way before, and you get to find out later who you're stuck with."The stuff kids say, makes you laugh, doesn't it?
Surprisingly, I've seen those attitudes in couples I've counseled who were heading for divorce.One is the attitude of "selfishness" (I'm not saying that the ten-year old boy was being selfish, but ifyou're thirty years old and still think that way then"Houston, we have a problem"). Think about it, though. Have you observed marriages where a spouse expects
the other to wait on him or her like hired help? And then the second attitude of feeling "stuck."Ever felt stuck in your marriage?You thought you were marrying this wonderfulperson who overflowed your heart with joy. But that was then. And now you feel trapped.Can you do anything to break-free from the attitudes
of selfishness and "marital imprisonment?"
Absolutely.Someone once said that a successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.The thing you can do to break-free is to fall in love with the same person again, again & again.Love = freedom.
Love = happiness.
Love = forever.
What's keeping you from falling in love with your
spouse all over again?Here's something YOU can do to start turning thingsaround today. This works. So do it :-)What's one thing you can do to make your spouse
feel loved? Do it today.In fact, ask yourself that question everyday. Andthen do that "thing" daily.
People who wait to feel loved rarely experiencelong-term love. But those who choose to be loving will experiencelove everyday for the rest of their lives.So, what is one thing you can do today to make yourspouse feel loved? Now go do it.Until next week, this is Mike & Gayle Tucker
and we're mad about marriage!PS - I just finished a 14-part series on marriageover at the Mad About Marriage blog. I think you will really enjoy today's short post becauseit will inspire you to hang in there and muster the
courage to turn things around in your marriage.
Just click this link to read more:
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