How often do people meddle in your marriage?
Interference from friends and family causes
tension in even the happiest marriages.
In fact did you know it’s one of the leading causes of divorce?
Only you
can protect your marriage. Here are some tips to create healthy boundaries to save your marriage from these damaging intrusions:
Boundaries For Family
For some reason, relatives think it’s okay to stick their nose in your business.
Ask yourself: “Do I want a marriage
like theirs?”
If you do, listen. If not, let them down gently so as not to hurt their feelings or damage any relationships.
BUT maybe, just maybe, they meddle because you share every little detail about your marriage. This is a green light for them to share unsolicited advice.
It’s time to stop sharing private information about your marriage.
Besides, if you share your spouse’s faults and shortcomings, your family is likely to use this information against them to defend or protect you.
Your marriage is your business.
If you need to discuss it, join a small group on marriage or start seeing a marriage counselor.
Boundaries For Friends
How much do your friends know about your marriage?
Sharing every detail of your relationship with your friends is inviting them to interfere and take sides.
While it's okay to discuss general aspects of your marriage, here are some categories that should be kept private:
- Personal details about your partner.
- Ways you feel hurt or betrayed by your
spouse.
- Don’t share anything you would want to be made public.
Even if such information becomes known by your friends, avoid discussing it by letting them know that you and your spouse are handling the matter privately.
If this offends your friends, they're not good friends.
Be firm but not disrespectful with friends and family. Your job is to establish healthy boundaries that guard your number
one relationship: your marriage.
Your marriage is your business.
You are under NO obligation to satisfy
anyone's curiosity, especially when their marriages have their own share of dysfunctions and challenges.
Until next week, this is Mike Tucker and I want YOU to be mad about marriage!
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